It is difficult for me to say if you boyfriend is secretly gay.
What I can do is give you some information on sexual orientation, anal sex and fetishes.
Many men and women enjoy stimulation of the anal area.There are lots of nerve endings and it can feel good. It doesn’t mean a man is gay if they enjoy anal stimulation.
There are many ways that people express their sexual orientation and preferences, and what gives them pleasure. For example, a person may identify as heterosexual and still enjoy fantasizing about same sex encounters.
Fetishes are things that turn people on sexually.They are common, but something that people often don’t talk about.Some examples of fetishes include a foot fetish or dressing up in the opposite sex clothes.This does not mean that your partner has a fetish.You would need to talk to him to know more about how he sees it.
How we understand social norms can make it difficult for us to talk about things. If people feel they are different or unusual they may feel shame or fear rejection.
Is it possible to chat with your boyfriend about your concerns? Sometimes a good conversation can help you understand each other.
Here is a link to some information that may help with communication. The pages have some ideas about how to bring up difficult topics.You may be able to use them to talk with your partner.
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